A wonderful friend of mine told me the other day that she went with her husband to marriage counselling. Sitting there, holding hands and giggling the therapist looked perplexed and asked them why they were there? They looked happy enough! They told the therapist that they had a good marriage and they had come to work on one particular aspect of their relationship so that they could have an even better marriage. Their therapist, with wide eyes exclaimed “I wish all couples came here at this stage of their marriage!”
I love this story and I think it’s a good lesson for all of us.
We often think that we only need to go for coaching, therapy or to self-improvement courses if there is something “wrong” with us or if things are “falling apart”. Realise this….. many people attend courses to better themselves at any stage of their lives, even after they have grown tremendously. After all, there’s never a time when we reach perfection in this earthly realm.
If you attend one of my courses – for example “Free to be Me – the Power of Self Esteem”, are you worried that there will be a stigma attached, that people will look at you and think there’s something wrong with you? I ask you the same question for coaching or healing? Are you worried people will look at you sideways?
People who invest in their growth have happier lives because they learn a different way of being. Look, I’m not saying if you attend a course or go for some coaching sessions that you will suddenly win a million rand or find the partner of your dreams or have a baby if you were struggling…. no. What coaching and the courses I run do, is help you to live your life in a way that you can cope better with all the adversity that comes your way. Nobody’s life is perfect or pain-free. We all struggle or suffer in some way. It’s part of our worldly existence. The trick is to handle it well so that the pain is much less and the struggles don’t seem so hard. This way we get to self manage without falling to pieces and we can get up quickly after falling.