The two boys who dream


“Up until now you’ve thought that your beliefs have been defined by your reality, but instead, your reality has been defined by your beliefs.” – Mike Dooley

I was sitting outside the Wits Theater while waiting for my daughter to finish Varsity so that I could take her home.  Two students came to sit next to me at the table and started chatting.  I was trying to get some work done but couldn’t connect to the Wits guest Wifi so instead I listened to their conversation.


Wits University at Dusk – photo by Eve Marks

They were talking about dreams.  One boy is reasonably quiet and believes that the most important people in film are the ones that work backstage because without them the film would never be made.  The other boy is more outgoing and believes that the Director is the most important person in a film.  It was interesting to see that their personalities matched their beliefs and reminded me of how diverse people are. We should be open to everyone’s opinions but still be true to our values.

Not everyone thinks the same way and that’s a good thing, it creates diversity

The quiet boy spoke about how you need to have a dream and a vision about your future so that you know where you are heading.  We should be dreaming bigger than what we think we can achieve.  He believes that what you think about most is what you manifest into your life.

Barriers and changing lives

The outgoing boy spoke about breaking barriers, about changing lives.  He said that “people think that if you have a big dream and a vision you are arrogant” and his challenge was to break through those stereotypes in his community.  He said that people think that if you want to change the world you have to change the whole world but South Africa is a world.  Johannesburg is a world.  His community is a world.  His family is a world.  Each person is a world and if you change yourself you are already changing the world.  We spoke a bit and agreed that if you change yourself and can make a difference in one other person’s life, you are changing the world, one person at a time.  He wants to change the world with his art.

I loved these boys!  Their attitudes are amazing.

change the world

Wood Design by Debbie Dewitt

I was gobsmacked to find out they are only in their first year studying Film, that means that they are 18 or 19 years old!  It took me many more years to be that astute about the world and about life.  Children these days are much more aware of things than we were, growing up and it’s something for parents to take notice of.  Listen to your kids talk, hear their ideas, give them the time.  They want to be heard.  You don’t have to agree with them but don’t knock them down as having stupid or worthless ideas.

Your attitude will determine your altitude

It’s so true what they said.  What we believe in is how we will manifest our lives.  Obviously there are more factors to it than that and it’s not all about the law of attraction, there are other laws at play but I do believe that what we think about plays a huge part in the quality of our lives.

What do you think? I would love to hear from you.




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