My aim here is to inspire others to look at their lives and see things in a different way. Many people struggle to see the positives in a difficult situation. This article is directed at people of any age. I’m hoping that you can glean something from it for yourself.
If I could give my younger self advice, this is what I would write……
Dear Teenage Me
I’m writing to you from 31 years in the future.
I want you to know that what you are going through right now will make you stronger and will teach you sensitivity, empathy and compassion. Sometimes you won’t understand why things are the way they are but you will gain faith in G-d and that will you help you through rough times and give you appreciation for all you have in your life.
One day you will come to a place of self-acceptance and acknowledge what you do in the world. You will learn confidence because once you accept yourself as you are, other people won’t be able to affect you as much. You will learn to say YES to new opportunities and trust your abilities and the gifts and talents that you have been given.
Now and then you will falter but that is okay and you will learn to love that about yourself too…. that you are resilient and can get up and dust yourself off, quickly, without dwelling on hurts for too long.
You will realise that relationships are sometimes fickle and that someone you love, you can un-love and then re-love all in the same day.
Most important, you will realise that you are human.
Humans are fallible and make mistakes all the time. Your job will be to still love yourself and others through those moments.
You will learn to understand your parents and why they do what they do.
I want you to know that you are beautiful NOW. Really.
Open your eyes to the magnificence of the world. Enjoy the people in your life because time flies.
Take risks*** and have fun. Don’t hold back when it comes to being creative and expressing yourself. It doesn’t matter what other people think but of course don’t hurt anybody intentionally. If you don’t go for something it will never materialise. Do what you love because when you spend time doing what you love you don’t mind the time it takes to do it and success will be easier to achieve.
Stop comparing yourself to others. There are always people better off or worse off than you. But you are never better or worse than anyone else. They are all people, just like you.
You will grow as a person, you will change somewhat. Your life path will veer in directions you never expected. Listen to your intuition, it knows. Don’t do what feels wrong. Try your best to stick to your motto: Don’t do unto others what you would not want done unto yourself.
From your older and wiser self.
***When I say take risks I don’t mean smoking, taking drugs, sex or doing anything that puts your life, health or value system at risk. I mean talk to someone that you are scared of talking to, apply for the job that you think you aren’t good enough to get, go on holiday even though it might be daunting to leave your home town, swim even if you think you look awful, do sports even if you are terrible at it, dance even if you look like a flying monkey, sing even if you don’t know the lyrics, draw and paint even if you can’t draw a straight line. Stand up and say what needs to be said even if others don’t agree. That’s what I mean.
What one piece of advice would you like to share with others? Share it in the comments below.
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