When you are trying to do something challenging in your life for example sticking to an exercise routine or a new way of eating (or any other habit) and you keep slipping back into old habits then this one is for you.
One of the crucial elements of sticking to any sort of new habit is support. You’ve probably tried this before and yet you find yourself sleeping in instead of going for a walk or hitting the gym.
I remember when I was on an intensive art course for a few years (a while back) and we had to hand in hundreds of sketches, numerous completed drawings and a fair amount of large drawings with board frames. I was working full day and studying part time and it was quite difficult to come home after work, cook, clean and complete my art work and still find time to relax. What helped me get through at the time was having support partners. My husband and my close friend. My husband would help me keep accountable by sometimes watching tv or reading where I was drawing or he would remind me about my goal to finish what I had started. My friend supported me by loving my art and encouraging me even if I didn’t love it. We would sometimes lug my art equipment to her house and I would draw while we all spent time together. Good times.
Does it make sense to you that sometimes we just need someone who will be on our side, someone who will remind us about why we started, someone we can phone or text when we “just don’t feel like it” and want to give up?
When choosing a support partner, let it be someone who would be kind yet firm. Discuss what you want from them beforehand. If you want them to push you, explain how you would like it to be done. For me a Seargent Major type would push me into rebellion rather than motivate me. Set boundaries from the beginning. For both of you – maybe your support partner doesn’t want to be woken at 3 a.m. because you are dying for ice cream in the fridge and don’t want to ruin your hard work.
Don’t think you have to do it all yourself. We are social creatures. Sometimes the person who is always there for someone else needs someone to be there for them. Are you feeling guilty for receiving support? Your support partner may need your help one day too. You are worthy of support.
Choose someone who gets you. There’s no point choosing support that doesn’t agree with what you are doing and will constantly criticise you along the way.
Hang in there. Goals take perseverance to achieve – ask anyone who reached theirs.
I wish you the best with your goal. Let us know how this advice helped you reach it.