At some stage of your life you have probably looked at other peoples’ relationships and thought “Wow, they look so happy all the time / respectful of each other / in love / thoughtful / romantic”.
That’s the part of their relationship that they show to the world. The rest is hidden.
Most peoples’ ideal partner is based on unrealistic expectations which come from stories, movies, songs and books.
So, is there a perfect partner?
Yes. In front of you.
Look at the person you are with because that is most likely your perfect partner, the one that’s right for you to help you grow and become a better human**.
The way to realise the perfection of your partner is to firstly love and accept yourself as you are and then do the same for your partner. Love and accept them as they are. If you make this choice to work on your relationship you will notice how gratifying it is when things work out well.
Relationships never happen in a straight line.
Sometimes they are easy and sometimes they are hard. Every relationship requires effort and self growth.
Think about what you want in this relationship and then make it happen. If you want flowers but your partner is not that way inclined there is no point in getting upset about it because that won’t change things at all. Ask for the flowers so that you get them. If you want more talk time together, initiate it. Let your partner know how important they are to you and how when you spend time with them you feel loved. If you want to be more appreciated, show appreciation for him/her. Take a look at yourself and be honest. How often do you really show appreciation for your partner?
The perfect partner is most likely the one you’ve got. The perfect person however, does not exist.
I wish you a week of growth and love, accepting your partner for who he or she is, noticing the beauty in their eyes and realising how lucky you really are.
**I’m not referring to abusive relationships
If you are not currently in a romantic relationship this can also apply to any type of relationship in your life.