Do you ever wish that you would have just kept quiet and asked questions rather than jump to conclusions? Whenever I jump to conclusions it doesn’t end well.
I think the reason for this is that we judge a situation by our perception or experience of it from our point of view and how can we know what is really going on unless we are in the other person’s mind?
So many disputes take place because of this blind spot which is basically misunderstanding. We can think we know why the other person does what they do but it’s not based on reality, it’s based on guessing.
I have regretted talking too soon so many times in the past that it has almost become a silent rule to ask first. I hate making the mistake of judging someone wrongly and then having to apologise afterwards. Do you ever feel this way?
I can feel the feelings of anger welling up and my tongue about to spit out it’s defamation when suddenly I stop myself because I notice the signs. The signs are my feelings of anger. I just know I’m going to make a mistake if I don’t ask first.
Once it’s out. It’s too late.
So that ‘s what I do (most of the time). I ask first. I’ve learned my lesson. I hope.