I remember when I was in my 20’s and I was thinking about having a baby…… My husband and I were worried that we wouldn’t be able to afford all the new expenses and thought we should rather wait until we could afford it. One of the ladies at my work at the time said to me “You will never be ready…. If you wait until you are ready you will never have children”. I took her advice to heart and am so glad and blessed that I did.
I have a friend who hardly ever went swimming because she wanted to wait until she was thin. I thought she looked quite lovely but she didn’t accept herself. When her kids were young she used to sit on the side of the pool and wouldn’t join them because she was too self conscious. She missed out on all those cool and fun moments!
On a Monday people complain about it being Monday and can’t wait until Friday. What about finding a way to make the whole week meaningful or enjoyable?
I’ll start my exercise programme on Monday. Umm… what about today? 🙂
Waiting for things to be better first is counterproductive. What happens if things never turn out the way we hope they will?
There are so many challenges that people have in life – be it illness, finances, relationships, etc.so why not take those challenges and find a way to accept them and make them work for us?
I think acceptance is the main building block that we need in order to move forward. Without acceptance, we can’t move on.
Challenge your inner beliefs. If you think things have to be a certain way first, ask yourself if that belief will serve you. Beliefs that we have about ourselves and the world around us are not always true. For example “I have to be very helpful all the time otherwise people won’t like me”.
How will you know if you haven’t experimented with saying no sometimes?
Perhaps some of your friends will leave you but those are the ones who were using you in the first place.
Let go of your expectations of how life is supposed to be. Accept what is.
- Make a choice to thrive despite the challenges.
- Look for ways to thrive. Write down lots of ideas.
- Pick one and start doing it.
Sometimes it helps to have a coach who can help you sort through these questions in your life, it’s good to have an objective point of view.
May you have a week in which you are not waiting for Friday.