Giving is super important and gives purpose to one’s life. However, some people perceive that to receive from others is wrong or they don’t like it. Have you heard people saying “I would rather give than receive”?
There’s a balance to giving and receiving. If you constantly give and never allow yourself to receive you are creating an unbalanced relationship with whoever is trying to give to you. Everyone needs to give in order to feel that they are contributing to society, to friends, relatives and to their intimate relationships and you are giving someone an opportunity to be generous when you are able to accept from others.
Receiving can be scary but hear this….. accepting a gift, a compliment or help, doesn’t mean you are weak or useless, helpless or incapable. It means you are in a relationship. You can be strong and still accept from others. Receiving might also bring up feelings of obligation and owing. i.e. I have to be grateful to this person and now I am indebted or owe them something. Yes you probably should be grateful, so what? Someone out there is grateful for what you have done for them too.
You know who else you need to receive from? Yourself.
The other day I proved it to myself after hearing a talk on this. After the talk, I gave myself three gifts, one was tasty, one was about cooling down in the boiling heat and the other was taking a few minutes just to enjoy these two things. When my husband and kids got home later I had so much more energy and willingness to do things for them rather than feeling depleted and put upon with all their needs because I had already given to myself. I had shown myself that I am worthy of receiving. It’s weird but I actually wanted to give more because my needs had already been met. The people around me were naturally happy too.
Did you know you are worthy of love just as you already are with no improvements? That means that right now you are worthy of love just because you are.
Next time somebody gives you a compliment, say thank you (instead of not believing them or making excuses or brushing them off). If somebody offers you help, don’t think “I can do this all on my own”. Even if you can do it all on your own, it’s okay to share your burdens and your chores. If somebody gives you a gift, don’t think “oh no, now I have to give them a gift back” just accept it and appreciate that someone cared about you.
Thank you for reading my blog – that is a gift to me.