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writerQuestion 1:  If you didn’t have to worry about money what type of work would you do?

I know a great person with creative ideas who loves books and knows he has an amazing book inside him just waiting to come out but he hasn’t written one page!

I would like to win a million rand in the lottery but I hardly ever buy a ticket.

When we think and think and think about doing something but don’t act on it – NOTHING HAPPENS.

Question 2 … Is it something you could actually do?

What is stopping you?  Are you thinking that you could never do it?  Are you thinking that you are not good enough?  Not worthy?  Incapable of ever being a success?

Now that I’m in my late 40’s I’m finding more and more that I want to do things that I haven’t ever acted on.  I’m saving up for those singing lessons.  But let me tell you that when I do start to take those  lessons I have actually no care about if I will ever “succeed” in the eyes of others.  I’m not trying to be a famous singer, I just want to learn the skill and breathe well and have fun.  I want to sing for me.

I do hope that great man writes his first page of his novel, and then the next and then the next.  He doesn’t have to make millions out of it, that’s not the point.  The point is to say to himself “I did what I always dreamed I would do”.

Don’t think, think, think and think that you can’t do it or it couldn’t happen for you.  What’s life for if not to experience?

Live as if money isn’t an object when it comes to starting to realise your dreams.  If money is tight right now and you’ve always wanted to be an artist, buy a pencil and a drawing pad and start.  Or paint with one or two colours of ink using a cotton bud.  Don’t let your inhibitions and self judgement stop you.   If you want to be a tennis player but can only afford one lesson a month, find a teacher who will accommodate you and practise against your garden wall.

So what if you don’t become the next world champion….. just be a champion to yourself for starting.

With love



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Back from the future


My aim here is to inspire others to look at their lives and see things in a different way.  Many people struggle to see the positives in a difficult situation.  This article is directed at people of any age. I’m  hoping that you can glean something from it for yourself.

If I could give my younger self advice, this is what I would write……

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A Journey

Dear Teenage Me

I’m writing to you from 31 years in the future.

I want you to know that what you are going through right now will make you stronger and will teach you sensitivity, empathy and compassion.  Sometimes you won’t understand why things are the way they are but you will gain faith in G-d and that will you help you through rough times and give you appreciation for all you have in your life.

One day you will come to a place of self-acceptance and acknowledge what you do in the world.  You will learn confidence because once you accept yourself as you are, other people won’t be able to affect you as much.  You will learn to say YES to new opportunities and trust your abilities and the gifts and talents that you have been given.

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Now and then you will falter but that is okay and you will learn to love that about yourself too…. that you are resilient and can get up and dust yourself off, quickly, without dwelling on hurts for too long.

You will realise that relationships are sometimes fickle and that someone you love, you can un-love and then re-love all in the same day.

Most important, you will realise that you are human.

Humans are fallible and make mistakes all the time.  Your job will be to still love yourself and others through those moments.

You will learn to understand your parents and why they do what they do.

I want you to know that you are beautiful NOW.  Really.

Open your eyes to the magnificence of the world.  Enjoy the people in your life because time flies.

Take risks*** and have fun.  Don’t hold back when it comes to being creative and expressing yourself.  It doesn’t matter what other people think but of course don’t hurt anybody intentionally.  If you don’t go for something it will never materialise.  Do what you love because when you spend time doing what you love you don’t mind the time it takes to do it and success will be easier to achieve.

Nurture yourself. You are important, you count.

Stop comparing yourself to others.  There are always people better off or worse off than you.  But you are never better or worse than anyone else.  They are all people, just like you.

You will grow as a person, you will change somewhat.  Your life path will veer in directions you never expected.  Listen to your intuition, it knows.  Don’t do what feels wrong.  Try your best to stick to your motto:  Don’t do unto others what you would not want done unto yourself.

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You are valuable, capable, loveable, tenacious, creative, worthy.  You are enough.  I love you.

From your older and wiser self.

***When I say take risks I don’t mean smoking, taking drugs, sex or doing anything that puts your life, health or value system at risk.  I mean talk to someone that you are scared of talking to, apply for the job that you think you aren’t good enough to get, go on holiday even though it might be daunting to leave your home town, swim even if you think you look awful, do sports even if you are terrible at it, dance even if you look like a flying monkey, sing even if you don’t know the lyrics, draw and paint even if you can’t draw a straight line.  Stand up and say what needs to be said even if others don’t agree.  That’s what I mean.

What one piece of advice would you like to share with others?  Share it in the comments below.

p.s. My course “The Power of Self Value” will start on Tuesday evening 24 May. If you are interested please click here.

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What Art Is To Me


cards setI used to think that art was painting, drawing and sculpture but since my daughter started studying art a few years ago I began to see things differently.  Gone are the days where art is a pretty picture.  Now it’s conceptual, has lots of meaning and touches people to the core.  Art can be broken glass on the floor, it can be a hole in the wall where people can look out at others who are unaware they are being seen, it can be a video or a silent movie, it can be handprints or how you decorate your home, it can be a photo taken with awareness, it’s in how you dress.  Photography is one of my favourite mediums and every time I look around I see photos waiting to be taken.  I painted my kitchen cupboards various shades of blue.  Art can be anything you make it.eve (2)


I draw and paint inspirational cards.  I love inspiring people to live their better life and I like to help people in moments when they feel a bit hopeless or when they are not sure of the next step to take going forward in their lives.  So I drew these cards with inspiration from the world and they each have a saying on them that will hopefully help to click some positive thought into motion.

I didn’t have much art training when I was growing up so I used to be skeptical about putting my art out there.  When people asked me if I’m an artist, I used to say “well….. I’m trying to be”.  What my daughter taught me about art is to “just do it”.  She taught me to stop worrying about what others think because frankly art is an opinion.  If I crave making art but never do it, nothing is ever going to be made.  I followed her encouragement and now I have two packs of cards, one of which is ready and waiting to be sold.  My children and I have started a business around these inspirational products.  We call them Good Moodles.  We are working on the website so watch this space.  In the meantime you can check some of them out here.  We have also translated the drawings onto mugs which make great gifts.  You can never have too many mugs (well that’s my theory anyway).  #feelingalittlebitproud

Art is a big part of my life.  I love it!  And finally, I say it….. I’m an artist.




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