Relationships can be enjoyable, horrible, stressful, amazing, connecting, separating, draining, life giving.
One of the best eye openers to what goes on in a relationship (any relationship) is when there is a power outage. Suddenly, there’s no internet, no WhatsApp, no food to cook, no TV. There’s only candles and LED lights and each other.
To make a relationship work requires that both (but it can start with just one of the couple) makes an effort to connect. The phones and all other technology can so easily get in the way of that.
Here are a few ways to make a change:
Put your phone down when you see a family member coming towards you or when you hear them walking down the passage. It makes them feel wanted and noticed. Give your loved ones a proper greeting when they come home, a hug and a kiss goes a long way to someone feeling loved and appreciated.
Make dinner time a no-phone zone. Even though it’s difficult to get this to happen it reaps benefits. There are so many studies which state the benefits of sitting down together as a family to eat dinner. Maybe that’s your only time together every day so put the phones away.
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Facebook, instagram, Youtube are not going to bring you closer to the people you love. Make time to cook together, declutter together, go out for ice cream or walk the dogs. That’s what will build real relationships.
Studies have shown that in marriages that thrive well, a couple spends an uninterrupted 15 minutes together every day. 15 minutes.
This is all very good and well, however, life happens and it doesn’t always go so easily. So forgive yourself when you make a mistake but make it better next time. Forgive your partner for not getting it right too.
Relationships are so necessary to our lives (any type of relationship) yet we often don’t put enough into them. Decide what is important to you and work towards it.