How do you spell love? – Piglet
You don’t spell it, you feel it. – Pooh
I have noticed that it’s easy to forget to love when we are busy and taken over by life’s happenings.
We forget because we lose our presence. I see it in myself…. when I have a lot to do someone (like my husband or child) can talk to me but I’m not fully there, I’m only half there and I’m not paying full attention. The thing is when I do pay full attention the whole scenario turns out differently. When I’m half there I’m also dismissive, trying to get the things done that seem so important (and sometimes they are) but it disconnects me from the other person, they feel my lack of attention, my hurry or my lack of interest in their story.
When you slow down slightly, breathe deeply a couple times and connect properly with the other person by putting everything down, hearing what they have to say, looking them in the eyes and sometimes adding some acknowledging touch, not only do they feel loved but you will feel love for them. Communicating is an all senses experience.
Of course you will be unavailable sometimes but you can choose to set a time to connect with them a bit later.
When people feel loved by you, you will see it in their eyes or their demeanor and you will automatically feel love towards them.
There is something extraordinary about being present, about really being there, bringing love into being….. don’t you think?