I sat working at the coffee shop and watched a father and two boys who I assumed were his sons walk in. They sat together at a table, the father hunched over his phone, not looking up. The two young boys had a phone between them and were playing a game on it. Neither the boys nor the father acknowledged each other. The manager came over to greet them. The child holding the phone didn’t even look up. They were there for about 15 or 20 minutes, collecting takeaways and then they left. In all that time they didn’t interact.
Most of us are guilty of this to some extent.
If we keep in mind the things that are important to us, we will put our phones down, close our laptops early and switch off the tv.
What 3 things are most important to you?
When you identify what they are remember them when living your day to day life. There’s a good chance it will feel satisfying and connecting.
“They” say – Love is in the eyes of the beholder. To me this means it doesn’t matter what you are like because if somebody loves you they will not notice your flaws or at the very least they will ignore them because they love you so much it won’t matter.
What about you? Can you look at yourself and see someone beautiful? Someone kind, loving, loveable, capable, strong, courageous?
It’s easier to love someone else and ignore their flaws than your own.
When you live each day like the one before and don’t grow yourself you will most likely notice that you are unhappy or uneasy. Those uncomfortable feelings are a sign to you that it’s time to do some inner work.
How to start
Look at yourself and what you say and do with loving eyes – the way you would do if you were looking at someone else that you love. If you are able to do this, you will start to be less hard on yourself, be more forgiving towards yourself, get up after you fall down, not worry about others’ opinions, be more free.
May you have a week where you remember how amazing you really are.