When holidaying near wild life you will see many signs saying “please do not feed the monkeys / baboons” and you still see people doing it. There are notices saying that if the baboons get used to human food they become dangerous as they will do anything to get that food when they want it, yet people still feed them. The notice says that when the baboons get dangerous they will be shot and yet people still feed them. It’s very upsetting.
Feeding your fears is something like feeding the monkeys. The more you feed your fears the more fearful you get and the less you are able to cope in various situations. Your fears start to take over and before you know it you are living according to your fears. Rational thought goes out the window and anxiety is the order of the day.
The acronym for F.E.A.R is False Evidence Appearing Real.
What this means is that what you think is going to happen seems as though it is really going to happen and therefore you believe it to be real. The mind doesn’t know whether it is real or not so it starts to send off hormones to alert the body of danger. However, if you think about it carefully you will notice that most of our fears are unfounded. Most worries never happen.
If we focus all our energy on what we fear, it could eventually come true because what we focus on expands and if we are living our fear then it can start to become real for us.
If you think you are broke (even if you have enough money to survive), you will always feel broke. I met a woman once who was complaining about her lack of money and material wealth. When I was invited to her house for a party I couldn’t believe the size of the house! Seriously, it was one of the biggest houses that I had seen in the area. However, in her mind she didn’t have enough and she feared that she would never have enough and so even though she was living a life of abundance she didn’t see it for herself and always felt “poor”.
People have fears about all sorts of things and it is actually like living in a prison. They can’t move forward or even sideways. They just stay in one place, afraid of what the future will bring (and the future could be tomorrow or in an hour’s time).
At one stage I was really petrified of the security situation in our country. I had been the victim of crime previously and I couldn’t sleep at night. I spent each night fearing the worst. A good friend of mine suggested that I look at the facts. The facts were we had various security measures in place so I wrote down a list of all these security measures and after that I felt a lot better. I use that tool now and again when I need it.
Fear can appear real but it’s nearly always about the future and we can’t know what the future will bring.
So instead of feeding your fears, look at the facts and focus on that instead.