Recovery from Drudgery

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change your own world - barbwire turning into birdsSteve Jobs said:  “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.  If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, don’t settle.”

So how do you do great work if you don’t love what you do?

Find a way to love or at least like a part of it. Here are a few ideas.

* Have a purpose for what you are doing.  Decide what it is you are going for – (If you haven’t done the Power of Purpose course you may wish to consider it as an option).
* Write a list of what you like about your work – maybe it’s the people or the coffee or the view out of your window or the organising.
* Write a list of what you dislike about your job.  Now take that list and try and find ways to change a few of them.
* Why are you doing what you are doing?  Your answers may give you clarity.
thoughts - there is always a way* If you are struggling with relationships at work consider getting a coach to help you through.
* Make a difference in someone else’s life at work.  Giving of yourself to others – even if it’s a pleasant smile or a heartfelt ear – builds you up as well as being pleasurable.
* If you have an opportunity to work towards what you really want in your life then set a goal and start working towards it.   The best time to begin was 5 years ago but if you didn’t, then begin now.

Keep in mind that even if you start off doing what you really love, it can still become drudgery and “just a job” if you don’t add purpose to it.

Wishing you well

Eve

Your Vision – A Life Hack

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change-rose-budI’ve been reading The Breakthrough Experience by Dr John F. Demartini (non-fiction).  He tells his story about how he made it from being told by his grade 1 teacher that he would never be able to read, write or communicate and that he would never amount to anything…. to becoming a world renowned writer and communicator, having written 40 books so far and talking in most countries around the world for most of the year motivating, inspiring and changing people’s lives.

There’s so much to write about what he says but one of the stories that struck me this past week is about affirmations.  John dropped out of school and left home when he was 14 and when he was 17 he met a 93 year old man who helped him to see his vision for his life which was related to being an orator and speaking to millions of people about universal laws and spiritual healing.  He asked the man (Mr Bragg) how he would be able to actualise his vision if he was practically illiterate.  The man advised him to keep saying to himself (with conviction) every day of his life, for the rest of his life “I am a genius and I apply my wisdom”.  He said that once this affirmation becomes part of every cell in his body, the people around him would start to believe it too and would react accordingly.  He decided then to go back home and learn to read and finish school.  With the help of tutors he received his matric equivalent and wrote University entrance exams.  Two years later he was studying for his calculus exam in the library and one of his classmates asked him if he could study with him.  He said sure and before he knew it there were a whole lot of guys from his class sitting around the table studying with him and asking him questions.  He heard one guy whisper to another guy “That guy John, he’s a genius.  He’s a friggin’ genius”.  After hearing this John suddenly realised with a tear in his eye that his impossible dream was starting to become a reality.

change-energy-you-want-to-attractYou can also have an affirmation for yourself that you say with meaning and intention.  An affirmation that is particularly suited to you.  Say it every day, many times a day until it becomes part of you and then keep saying it.

Your affirmation must resonate with you and fit you.  You can choose your own or I can help you and we can work together to find the one that works best for you related to your specific circumstances.

Wishing you a week of building yourself (and others) up.

Feeding the Baboons

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fears-feed-the-fearsWhen holidaying near wild life you will see many signs saying “please do not feed the monkeys / baboons” and you still see people doing it.  There are notices saying that if the baboons get used to human food they become dangerous as they will do anything to get that food when they want it, yet people still feed them.  The notice says that when the baboons get dangerous they will be shot and yet people still feed them.  It’s very upsetting.

Feeding your fears is something like feeding the monkeys.  The more you feed your fears the more fearful you get and the less you are able to cope in various situations.  Your fears start to take over and before you know it you are living according to your fears.  Rational thought goes out the window and anxiety is the order of the day.

The acronym for F.E.A.R is False Evidence Appearing Real.

baboonWhat this means is that what you think is going to happen seems as though it is really going to happen and therefore you believe it to be real.  The mind doesn’t know whether it is real or not so it starts to send off hormones to alert the body of danger.  However, if you think about it carefully you will notice that most of our fears are unfounded.  Most worries never happen.

If we focus all our energy on what we fear, it could eventually come true because what we focus on expands and if we are living our fear then it can start to become real for us.

If you think you are broke (even if you have enough money to survive), you will always feel broke.  I met a woman once who was complaining about her lack of money and material wealth.  When I was invited to her house for a party I couldn’t believe the size of the house!  Seriously, it was one of the biggest houses that I had seen in the area.  However, in her mind she didn’t have enough and she feared that she would never have enough and so even though she was living a life of abundance she didn’t see it for herself and always felt “poor”.

People have fears about all sorts of things and it is actually like living in a prison.  They can’t move forward or even sideways.  They just stay in one place, afraid of what the future will bring (and the future could be tomorrow or in an hour’s time).

At one stage I was really petrified of the security situation in our country.  I had been the victim of crime previously and I couldn’t sleep at night.  I spent each night fearing the worst.  A good friend of mine suggested that I look at the facts.  The facts were we had various security measures in place so I wrote down a list of all these security measures and after that I felt a lot better.  I use that tool now and again when I need it.

Fear can appear real but it’s nearly always about the future and we can’t know what the future will bring.

So instead of feeding your fears, look at the facts and focus on that instead.

With love

Eve

Self Indulgence Self Sabotage

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* Does that extra half an hour lying in bed stop you from doing something else?
* Sitting around with coffee and facebook a bit longer than you were planning to?
* Do you find yourself rushing around a lot and still getting to places late?
* Do you give yourself treats a bit too often?
* Do you buy expensive things when the budget is low?

When you are wanting a new way of being for yourself and work towards getting it but find yourself sabotaging your efforts, it could be that you are self indulging.  There are many reasons for not doing what we are wanting to do, reaching our goals and living life well, I’m just going to focus on self indulgence for today.

There’s nothing wrong with lying in bed for ½ hour longer if you don’t have other things that you are wanting to accomplish.  There’s also nothing wrong with treating yourself to ½ hour longer in bed now and then.  It’s when it becomes a habit and messes up your day or many days because you are rushing around and arriving late for commitments and getting less of the important stuff done on a consistent basis.

Consistent self indulgence is self sabotaging

  • Reaching for the sugary treats when we know that we don’t logically need them and then staring at the scale in horror as if it is the scale’s fault!
  • Watching You-tube videos or browsing the internet instead of getting ready in the morning and then being late for an appointment – then moaning at yourself and feeling hopeless about often being late.
  • Saying “I will start exercising tomorrow” everyday and somehow never getting around to it.
  • Procrastinating on a work project because it’s too hard or too boring and then rushing like a maniac to get it finished at the last minute.

 

Can you notice the self sabotage?  Can you see yourself in any of these scenarios?

Of course we should treat ourselves and live life happily but it would benefit us more to balance that pleasure with self discipline, prioritising, being organised and responsible.

What do you think?  (I’m genuinely interested and would love to have your input).

With love

Eve

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The two boys who dream

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“Up until now you’ve thought that your beliefs have been defined by your reality, but instead, your reality has been defined by your beliefs.” – Mike Dooley

I was sitting outside the Wits Theater while waiting for my daughter to finish Varsity so that I could take her home.  Two students came to sit next to me at the table and started chatting.  I was trying to get some work done but couldn’t connect to the Wits guest Wifi so instead I listened to their conversation.

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Wits University at Dusk – photo by Eve Marks

They were talking about dreams.  One boy is reasonably quiet and believes that the most important people in film are the ones that work backstage because without them the film would never be made.  The other boy is more outgoing and believes that the Director is the most important person in a film.  It was interesting to see that their personalities matched their beliefs and reminded me of how diverse people are. We should be open to everyone’s opinions but still be true to our values.

Not everyone thinks the same way and that’s a good thing, it creates diversity

The quiet boy spoke about how you need to have a dream and a vision about your future so that you know where you are heading.  We should be dreaming bigger than what we think we can achieve.  He believes that what you think about most is what you manifest into your life.

Barriers and changing lives

The outgoing boy spoke about breaking barriers, about changing lives.  He said that “people think that if you have a big dream and a vision you are arrogant” and his challenge was to break through those stereotypes in his community.  He said that people think that if you want to change the world you have to change the whole world but South Africa is a world.  Johannesburg is a world.  His community is a world.  His family is a world.  Each person is a world and if you change yourself you are already changing the world.  We spoke a bit and agreed that if you change yourself and can make a difference in one other person’s life, you are changing the world, one person at a time.  He wants to change the world with his art.

I loved these boys!  Their attitudes are amazing.

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Wood Design by Debbie Dewitt

I was gobsmacked to find out they are only in their first year studying Film, that means that they are 18 or 19 years old!  It took me many more years to be that astute about the world and about life.  Children these days are much more aware of things than we were, growing up and it’s something for parents to take notice of.  Listen to your kids talk, hear their ideas, give them the time.  They want to be heard.  You don’t have to agree with them but don’t knock them down as having stupid or worthless ideas.

Your attitude will determine your altitude

It’s so true what they said.  What we believe in is how we will manifest our lives.  Obviously there are more factors to it than that and it’s not all about the law of attraction, there are other laws at play but I do believe that what we think about plays a huge part in the quality of our lives.

What do you think? I would love to hear from you.

Eve