Life seems so busy lately. I typed this around midnight last night because I didn’t have a chance to do it earlier in the day. I even fell asleep while typing.
After working on my website, helping out a friend, shopping and lift schemes, I put supper on the stove and felt exhausted. I knew that what I needed most was to lie down but did I have the time? It was 7:30 p.m.
I realised that what I needed most at that moment was self care. This is something I am learning to do for myself more and more. Putting others first is my default.
So I switched off the lights (and weirdly enough the dogs stopped wrestling), lay down, closed my eyes and just breathed for 10 minutes.
Afterwards I showered and felt so much better. By the time I went to check on the food it was ready.
What I see from the women in my life is that they are always doing for others and hardly ever take time to do for themselves**. I know that I can still be up late at night, letting the pets out and waiting for them to come back inside, locking up, checking on the kids, making sure all the lights are off etc. while everyone else has been sleeping for over an hour already.
I don’t know what you are like when you don’t give yourself enough self care but I can get irritable, resentful, hungry for junk food, tired, fed up.
So here’s a cool and ready-to-use idea to remind you about self care when you find you need it.
Create a Self Care Box which is box of things which make you feel loved and nurtured.
These are some things that I would put in my box. Personalise your own.
- A list of all the things you can do for yourself when you feel tired or crabby (e.g. have a bath, lie down, go for a walk, play with the pets, dance to your favourite song, lie under a tree, walk on the grass, etc.).
- A favourite book that you like dipping into
- Aromatherapy oil
- A soft piece of fabric or a plush toy that you like to touch
- Hand cream
- A small chocolate
- Bath salts
- Face mask
- A journal with perhaps some writing prompts
- A pen and drawing equipment
- Some favourite photos
- Positive affirmations
- A USB drive with photos and videos and/or music
- An inspirational coffee mug
- A hot water bottle
- Cotton socks
- A tea bag
- A crystal
- A phone number of someone you can call for support
Keep the box somewhere where you can see it. Open it whenever you feel a bit down or irritable or out-of-kilter or once a day! Most of the time you will find that just doing something caring for yourself even if it’s for 15 minutes will go a long way to changing your mood and your energy.
You are valuable and worthy of self care and time for yourself.
**To my male readers, let me know if this is different for you.