The Role of a Healer

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I think that the word Healer is a misunderstood word.

A Healer cannot take an illness and blow it out of the water for it to disappear forever.  A Healer can’t perform miracles.  However, miracles CAN occur.

For healing to take place in a person the work required needs a holistic approach, i.e. physical, emotional and spiritual.  Illness is not always physical and even if it is, a person is not one dimensional so all aspects of a person require healing.

A good healer (be it a psychologist, natural healer, life coach, homeopath, doctor etc.) will work with you to facilitate your own healing.  Healing on all levels requires self work.  You can’t just walk into the room, open your arms and say “heal me”.  It doesn’t work that way.  For healing to take place you need to do the inner work.  

You may be called to work deeply with your emotions, to release anger, resentment, hurt, disappointment, loss from your past.  You may cry, feel a lot of pain, be surprised by what you are holding onto.  But afterwards you may feel relief, a release or lightness – and with that release comes healing. 

Depending on how deep the wounds are, will depend on how much work needs to be done.  We carry a lifetime of life experiences within our body and mind which are of course connected as has been seen in research.

If a person has a difficult illness or chronic condition (G-d forbid), there may be no way of becoming completely healthy again, however, with self work they may become more whole, more calm, more able to deal with what they are going through and enjoy their life.  This in itself can alleviate some of the symptoms such as pain. Illness can overtake one’s life because everything else shrinks by comparison.  So it’s imperative to include emotional work in the treatment.

Everyone needs healing of some kind.  So even if you just write in your journal and make new choices about how you want to be, that is a form of healing which you can start right away.

I wish you well.

With love
Eve

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Moving Past Guilt

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guilty.jpgA few things about guilt and how to change it.

Guilt is often caused by something we think we did or didn’t do.  We think we should have acted differently in the scenario.

An example would be that you said something to someone and they felt hurt by what you said.  You feel guilty about it and stew in your guilt, often avoiding the person or feeling awkward in their presence.  Maybe both of you will treat each other differently now.  What can you do about it?

Feeling guilty is an emotion that may be calling you to do something.  You may have gone against your own value system and you have an opportunity to rectify things. Can you make amends?  Can you apologise?  The way to deal with guilt is to give yourself some time to feel guilty about the particular situation …. say 15 minutes.  Then forgive yourself and make amends or choose do things differently next time.

If we hold onto guilt we may start punishing ourselves without realising it.  We can even become ashamed which means we start to point fingers at ourselves (as a person instead of just the action that was done).  We berate ourselves and put ourselves down.

Did you do as much wrong as you think you did?  Was there something more you could have done if the situation had been different?  Maybe you are being very hard on yourself, harder than you think.

1) Forgive yourself

2) Realise you are human

3) If there is something you can do to make amends, do it.

4) If you think there is nothing you can do to make amends you may be mistaken because even if the person is no longer around, you can do a good deed in their name.

5) Remember all the things you do right.

6) Talk to someone who can help if you are not managing to sort through this.

Being the best version of yourself takes a lifetime, don’t expect perfection.  Doing your best to grow is how you will get there.

With love
Eve

Tiniest Thing

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Perfectionism - van goghAre you holding back?

Do you find yourself not doing something that you would like to do?

If you ask yourself why you consistently aren’t doing it, you will probably find that you are scared of something.

Perhaps it’s failure.  Maybe you are scared of people judging you.  Maybe you think you are incapable.  Maybe you think it’s just a dream and dreams never come true.  Perhaps you think you don’t know enough.

Basically, the only way to do what you want to do is to do it.

So start.  One tiny thing.  All it takes is 5 seconds or 5 minutes.

All those things you are scared of are only your own mind’s way of tripping you up.  If you have to analyse your thoughts you will see that none of the reasons for holding back are worth much.

What one tiny thing can you do to start what you have been putting off?

Tiny.

With love
Eve