When you are 20 you care what everyone else thinks,
When you are 40 you stop caring what everyone else thinks,
When you are 60 you realise no one was ever thinking about you in the first place
– Will Rogers
Some things that are true about me… I’m giving, I’m compassionate, I’m helpful, I’m capable, I’m creative, I’m insightful, I’m authentic, I love.
So whether people think badly about me or not, they can’t take away what is true about me. If I believe my truths then I will live them to the best of my ability. If I believe what others may or may not think about me, I will revert back to my averse beliefs in myself and I will hold myself back from the world. I know this because I’ve done this and every so often I still do but I’m growing and more often I am able to hold on to what is true about me and I like what I see.
Unless someone actually tells you how they feel about you, everything you think they think is speculation. If they do tell you what they think about you in an ill-disposed or hurtful way it doesn’t mean you have to be convinced, because you don’t know what lies behind their words.
Sometimes people will think negatively about you but 5 minutes later they have forgotten about it because they are involved in themselves. It’s important to remember that not everybody has to like you. If you are living your best life and not purposefully hurting anyone then what they think should not bring you down. As I’ve told you before, your own thoughts about yourself are what hurt you because deep down you have negative convictions about yourself which feel real to you.
Telling yourself your own truths is not boasting, it’s recognizing who you are. Boasting is excessively proud and self-satisfied talk about your achievements, possessions, or abilities. Living your truths is about being – not necessarily talking about them especially to put yourself above another person. Nobody is superior or inferior to anybody else.
So for a change instead of acting out your life based on your negative beliefs about yourself, start to live by your truths.
Write down some truths about yourself now – I’ll wait.
p.s. if you need help to find those truths, please book a time with me to help you online. I’m having special for the rest of July/August – 20% discount per session = only $33 via skype or zoom.